An indian romeo

URFI:

Hi, the title of the post ‘an indian romeo’ just belongs to me. It is because by falling in deep love with my american juliet (Heathu), I became a romeo. But this romeo’s juliet has left him. I can’t tell how much it hurts. It is just like some one is crushing my heart and the pain is infinite. I never imagined heathu would really leave me, we fought hundreds times, but our love always stopped us to be separated. But this time she has left me. I am a person, who got true love very rarely in life. When i got it from heathu, i lost it. My mind is not working, it feels like i am dying, Today is valentine’s day, and i got the gift of suffering and pain. I have all the memories of heathu with me, every single letter and picture is preserved with me. When i see her in those pictures, i feel like she will talk, but she don’t, she don’t. How can a picture would talk. I keep waiting and waiting, but heathu don’t talk to me. heathu why u don’t talk to me. Its your urfi, whom you love to talk. Whom you always wanted to talk.i cried and cried, i couldn’t stop. It’s late night, i don’t feel sleepy, i feel ,my world has been destructed, The world of love which me and heathu created together. This world was beautiful. I write a single word and my eyes get full of tears. I want her, i really want her, please can some one bring her in my life? This life of urfi had the last chapter of love, which closed on the name of heathu. I will wait for her through all of my life. I will keep this blog alive, because this reminds me of heathu.

I miss her love

Hi,

I know its been so long i have written any post . I have finished my masters and now i can express here about my feelings. Me and heathu are not going well. We had enough of fights about the differences we have in  culture and religion. These days we talk sooooo less. Its also because we both hold  jobs and the time difference between UK and US makes gap in conversation. I seriously miss her, even when i go for job. For all people, who don’t know, i want to tell that i work in an indian restaurant as a cleaner. Its not easy for me to work there, but due to needs i am working. Everyday i am humiliated by myself whilst working there. Its not because the job is low profile, its because i am not made for this. Heathu don’t talk to me much now a days, and i am a very lonely guy. So i don’t know whom to tell or share my pain. Heathu has been very wonderful to me from the beginning and no wonder i am not as good as she is. Perhaps she is too good for me. I can’t stop a moment to think about her all cute activities, which i use to see whilst chatting her. When she came to see me in UK i remember those beautiful moments almost every time.  i have lost her love and i really need her. I try my best to not to fight with her. But you often fight with a person whom you love most, its because you know that person will never leave you. I don’t know what to do. I FEEL I AM LOOSING HER. She always complains i am bad in expressing love. I want to ask why she can’t see the love in my eyes, does everything needs a detail? I am going through a period of sorrow and happiness. I really wish that my heathu would return back to me. Heathu, I really love you. Don’t make my cry for loosing you..

Heathu Sings the Blues

Heathu:

Last Saturday (I think) Urfi and I sort of got into a fight. I don’t really know how I feel since I think some things have changed…..it really left me sad, but I guess I should have seen it coming. I’m not really sure what to do or what decision we should take….we came up with an idea, but I don’t feel very satisfied by that answer. I wish things were easier in our relationship…..sometimes I wish we didn’t have an interfaith (especially this one), intercultural,  interracial, and long-distance relationship. Sometimes I just wish we lived down the street from one another and went to the same high school and all that stuff….I just can’t help but think that it would be easier that way. What do you guys think?

PS – Has anyone seen Sita Sings the Blues? It’s awesome!

Strep Throat

Heathu:

Remember when I wrote that sick post a while ago? Well, I never did get a cold…like I thought I was, but I think now I have strep throat. I’ve had a sore throat for a couple of days…I thought I was finally going to get sick, but I never got a fever or a cold or anything else. My throat hurts so much and when I swallow it feels on fire. I asked my mom to look down my throat and she saw these little white spots in the back (I’m not sure what place that is….is it the tonsils?) so I think I probably have strep throat. I’m planning on going to the doctor soon…but I just wanted to let you guys know that I am sort of sick….I really hope I don’t infect anyone in my family with it :(

Rakhi

Heathu:

One day I had a random idea to make Urfi a friendship bracelet. I’ve never really used one before, and I’ve never made one either — but I thought it would be a cool idea nonetheless. I looked up some directions for making a simple bracelet and I tried them out, but they kept getting all tangled and not looking good at all. So, I decided to just braid some strands together (like the simple right one in the picture) because that was easy and simple. I gave Urfi the bracelet I made when I saw him in the UK, and when I got back to the states I made one of my own. I wanted us to wear the same colors and have it on the same arm since I thought it would help us remember the other person more frequently. I also made Urfi another bracelet since I thought it might break (it’s actually really strong), and I was afraid he wouldn’t have another one. I sent him his other bracelet along with a letter, and when he got it his roommates asked if I had made him a rakhi. Urfi got a little angry at this since it wasn’t a rakhi (rakhis are like friendship bracelets for brothers and sisters…I think it’s supposed to show the affection between siblings — blood related or not), and he didn’t like that it implied that our relationship was a brother-sister one (because that would also imply incest). Instead of calling it a rakhi we call it a “love bind” since it isn’t friendship bracelet and most definitely not a rakhi. We never take it off (except mine has broke off a couple of times, and I did cut it off once when we got into a huge fight….so, I’ve probably gone through like 5 love binds….I just use a whole new one when they come off or when I ending up cutting that one off), and I really like knowing the fact that Urfi is also wearing one. When he sees it he thinks of me, and when I see mine I think of him. It just makes me happy :) Anyway, I thought it would be nice if Urfi gave a rakhi to my sister (they get along great and constantly talk about being brother-sister), but then I realized that it could end up looking like our love bind. With that said, I thought it would be very odd for C to receive what looks like a love bind from Urfi…even if it is really supposed to be a rakhi. Now I’m sort of freaking out since our love binds really do look like a rakhis…..

Dream Vacations

Heathu:

I was talking to Urfi yesterday, and I mentioned how it would be fun to draw up a fake dream-vacation plan….like where we would go, what we do, where we would stay, how we would get there — all that good stuff. So, this means I will be busy planning our “vacation”. I still haven’t decided on the country yet, but I think it would be fun to publish our ideas after we are done…..what do you guys think?

Frustrated

Heathu:

I’m trying to decide what Indian dish I want to cook today, but I can’t since all the ingredients are so foreign to me.  I keep looking at recipes and changing what I want to make based on the ingredients only to find out that it calls for something I’ve never heard of before. Plus, I also have no idea where I can get “ garam masala”, which is in a lot of Indian dishes it seems….I don’t think my grocery store has these ingredients. There also aren’t any South Asian markets around my home that I can buy them from :( The only Asian market around my home is around 30 minutes away, but it’s stuff from Japan or Korea and not India or Pakistan :(  I’m getting really sick of making chicken curry all the time…I like the dish, but I wanted to try something new…..I’m just getting frustrated since it seems like I can’t make any Indian dishes since I don’t have any of the ingredients. Is anyone else having this problem? Where do you get the ingredients from? I’m really kicking myself now since I probably should have just bought them when I visited Urfi….there were SO many South Asian markets where he lives….

Foodie Review: Banana Lassi

Heathu:

Recipe from: http://www.indianfoodforever.com/

Ingredients:

1 cup plain non-fat yogurt

1 peeled and sliced ripe banana

2 tablespoons sugar or to taste

Few ice cubes

1/4th teaspoon cardamom powder (optional)

Directions:

Combine all ingredients and blend until smooth in a blender

 Pour in glasses and serve chilled

I made this the other day, because I wanted something cold and yummy to drink. With that said, this was the BEST smoothie I’ve ever had in my life! It was so delicious! I would have made another one, but I didn’t have anymore yogurt :( I would recommend everyone to try this lassi drink, which is really just a smoothie – haha! If you don’t like bananas then you could try mangos or strawberries. I think those fruits would turn out just as yummy :) Also, this recipe is super easy to make….so there shouldn’t be any excuses as to why you haven’t had this lassi yet ;)

Film: Cheetah Girls: One World

Heathu: 

Cheetah Girls: One World (2008)

Director: Paul Hoen

Staring: Adrienne Bailon, Sabrina Bryan, and Kiely Williams

I recently re-watched Cheetah Girls: One World the other day with C. I’ve seen this movie about three times now (haha, I know…I’m way too old for a Cheetah Girls movie, but it’s sort of guilty pleasure), and it’s sort of entertaining. The second time I saw it (I don’t really remember the first time) I didn’t really like the songs, but after seeing it for the third time I started liking them more. The movie doesn’t really go into so much detail about Indian culture, but you get to see some really beautiful saris. There are some instances of “Indian-sounding music”, which was really cool, but this movie mostly focuses on the Cheetah Girls trying to get an acting part in a Bollywood film. There is only one role so they need to compete against each other in order to win it. Two of the girls start a romance with Indians (one being a Maharaja who works in a call center!) while the other girl just broke up with her Spanish boyfriend and hates all things love. The love-hating girl eventually helps this really famous Indian actor ask out an Indian choreographer. They are both in love with each other, but too scared to make the first move. There isn’t anything about the girls having any troubles adapting to Indian culture, no funny incidents of cultural shock/cultural clash, and no Hindi spoken at all. Holi, a Hindu spring festival, is mentioned in the movie, but it isn’t a really big part of it since it only happens for about a second. In addition, there are about two scenes with a swami, but I almost forgot about those since they don’t take up so much time, to be honest. This movie is really aimed at pre-teens so I guess I shouldn’t really be asking so much from it, but I just thought it would have been nice to add a little more Indian culture to this movie about India. Anyway, despite these things I still enjoyed the movie…it was never boring (even after watching it for the third time!) and sort of entertaining.

Recommend? Maybe! It really depends on the person I’m talking to since I don’t want the word getting out that I watch movies about the Cheetah Girls ;), but I could see myself recommending this movie to someone else.

Sick :(

Heathu:

Hey! Bad news :( I think I’m getting sick. My body feels all tired and achy. Plus, I’m starting to get a headache and some snifflies. It is kinda late at night, and I woke up at 8:30 this morning, but I think it’s due to the possible sickness. My dad also said he wasn’t feeling very well so maybe he gave me whatever he has. I’m going to wait and see, but I could be sick for a week to two weeks (isn’t that the normal time for a common cold?). I might not post as much these days (although I have been slowing down a bit since I’m busy looking for jobs – nothing so far, but I’m still hoping), but I hope Urfi can write something. He’s also looking for jobs, but hasn’t been very successful :( I really hope he finds a job soon, because he really needs the money. He’s applied to so many jobs these last couple of months, but he hasn’t had any luck. I’m getting a little worried since I don’t want him to starve or not be able to pay his rent. I tried looking for jobs for him in the UK, but I guess they are still really hurting from the financial crisis.